Saturday, March 28, 2020

Val's Email Sunday School: Living in Uncertainty

March 23–29

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President Nelson posted a “Message of Hope” this week. In it he reassured us that despite current events, he remains optimistic about the future. His message was brief and hopeful, but what stood out to me was the one scripture he chose to quote. He said we can find comfort in uncertain times when we remember the promise the savior made when he said, “I the Lord am bound when ye do what I say.” Why should this specific phrase give us comfort in times of trial or uncertainty? He is emphasizing that the Lord cannot lie (Enos 1:6) and keeps his promises to his saints.



What promises has the Lord made to us? There are a lot. Perhaps now is a good time to brush up on those and look for those promises in our scripture study. Usually there is an “if” followed by a “then” in these promises. For example: if you “. . .feast upon the words of Christ; [then] the words of Christ will tell you all things what ye should do.” If we feast upon the words of Christ, then we’ll know what to do. Sounds good, especially in a time of uncertainty when we’re not sure what to do.

Here’s another one: If we are “willing to take upon [us] the name of [God’s] Son, and always remember him and keep his commandments . . . ” then we “may always have his Spirit to be with [us].” Oh wait, that’s one that we participate in every week. How does having the Lord’s spirit with us benefit us? Galations 5:22 teaches us that “the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance . . .” Who here could use a little more of these in their life right now? You don’t have to raise your hands. It’s all of us. Fear, anxiety, worry, or doubt aren’t fruits of the spirit. According to the scriptures the remedy to being worried or unsettled is having having The Spirit of God, or the Comforter, with us.

But I digress. The scriptural promise that stands out to me the most this week, which also happened to be in the reading and is repeated 9 different places throughout the Book of Mormon, is the promise that inasmuch as we keep the commandments of the Lord, we’ll prosper in the land (Jarom 1:9). We’re also promised several places in the scriptures that this will be a “land of liberty” and a “chosen land.” This brings to mind promises of Zion and how the Lord repeatedly says he’ll protect his people. We are told that Zion is “the pure in heart” and it is “wherever righteous Saints are.” We’re told that “Spiritual security will always depend upon how one lives, not where one lives.”

The reading this week begins with Enos praying over the welfare of his own soul. After praying all day and into the night, Enos hears a voice tell him that his sins are forgiven. Enos asks how it’s done, and the Lord replies, “Because of thy faith in Christ. . . thy faith hath made thee whole.” We see that faith is the power that causes miracles to happen throughout the scriptures. Christ himself is not the power that makes the miracles happen, but faith in him. Some examples are the woman with the issue of blood. Christ didn’t heal her, but her faith in him did. He didn’t play an active role in that healing; she played an active role by exercising faith. It’s interesting to note that even the apostles who walked with Jesus lacked faith at times and were sometimes unable to heal people because of their "unbelief" or "faithlessness". When we consider that the Articles of Faith state that the first principle of the Gospel is “Faith in the Lord Jesus Christ,” it should emphasize to us the central importance of understanding and attaining it.

Moroni 7 is a great chapter that discusses faith. Verse 37 says that “it is by faith that miracles are wrought,” again reaffirming that faith is the power that accomplishes these things. There are scriptures that say that salvation comes by faith. Moroni 7 and Mormon 9 discuss how we believe in an unchanging God, and if he performed miracles and wonders in the past, he also does so now. If he doesn’t, it is because of unbelief. Mormon 9:20 states, “20 And the reason why he ceaseth to do miracles among the children of men is because that they dwindle in unbelief, and depart from the right way, and know not the God in whom they should trust.”

This points out to me the importance of knowing the nature or character of God. Lectures on Faith discusses the importance of this as well. When our faith is rooted in a correct understanding of who we are resting our faith in, that’s when our faith has power. Matthew 17 tells us that “If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye shall say unto this mountain, Remove hence to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be impossible unto you.” We begin to see a pattern emerging in the scriptures where faith plays a very central role in everything from happiness in daily life to salvation and miracles. Hebrews 11 goes even farther saying "Through faith we understand that the worlds were framed by the word of God, so that things which are seen were not made of things which do appear."

Difficult or uncertain times serve as a proving ground. They are a test, a trial of faith. They give us an opportunity to apply the things we say that we believe. They give us an opportunity to examine where our true trust lies. Life is never certain, and there are times that this is more obvious than others. Living by faith is living according to what we say we believe not only in good times, but also when our safety nets are stripped away and the outcome is more uncertain than ever. Hard times are when you choose what you really believe, and then live that way, especially when your path to success is unclear.

It’s understandable that we are unsettled when the things we consider stable are upended. It’s a normal reaction to be anxious or worried about what the future might hold. However, even when we feel more secure, the future is never assured. Nothing has really changed--so much is outside of our control. If we are worried about our ability to navigate in a rapidly changing world, believing that we can have guidance that tells us all things that we should do is reassuring. If we’re worried about our ability to be happy amid chaos, turmoil, and wickedness, we can be reassured by Alma 50, which teaches us that despite the wickedness of much of the people which brought wars and destructions, the faithful people who followed the Lord were delivered and “there never was a happier time among the people of Nephi.”

If, despite all these reassurances that the scriptures give us, we’re still disconcerted and unsettled, ponder this. Doctrine and Covenants teaches us that “if ye are prepared ye shall not fear.” If you are fearful, contemplate what you’re fearful about. Are you worried about money? If you’ve followed the advice of the prophets, you’ve reduced your debt and lived within your means. If you haven’t been prudent with your money, recognize the wisdom in what we’ve been taught and resolve to start living more responsibly. We are also taught that we shouldn’t trust in the arm of the flesh and fear man more than God. Trusting in money instead of God won’t give you peace.

Are you worried about running out of supplies? The prophets have taught for decades to be as prepared as your circumstances permit. For many of us that includes food storage of months or years. However, beyond working to prepare ourselves as best we can, the scriptures teach us to “consider the lilies” expounding that “if God so clothe the grass of the field, which today is, and tomorrow is cast into the oven, even so will he clothe you, if ye are not of little faith. Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed? For your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things. But seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you.”

Are you afraid of suffering? If we’ve learned about the nature of God and actually believe it, we know that first and foremost he is loving and wants what’s best for us. If we build on this framework, we can see that “that all things work together for good to them that love God” (Romans 8). Doctrine and Covenants takes this further teaching us that “If thou art called to pass through tribulation . . . if thou art in perils among robbers . . . if thine enemies fall upon thee . . . and thou be dragged to prison, and thine enemies prowl around thee like wolves for the blood of the lamb; And if thou shouldst be cast into the pit, or into the hands of murderers, and the sentence of death passed upon thee. . . if the heavens gather blackness, and all the elements combine to hedge up the way; and above all, if the very jaws of hell shall gape open the mouth wide after thee, know thou, my son, that all these things shall give thee experience, and shall be for thy good.” We are supposed to trust that all things that we experience will work for our good, and the greater good, if we keep the commandments and love God. Simple, but not easy.

Are we afraid of death? We are never guaranteed that death won’t find us. Any of us could die at any time. We’re mortal. Accidents happen. Disease happens. All of us will eventually die. That’s what it means to be mortal and human. If we’ve forgotten this, then it’s a good wakeup call. We aren’t guaranteed more time. We are supposed to use the time we have here and now to prepare to meet God, to live our lives according to our values the best that we can so that if/when someday we die we can feel confident knowing that we did “all we could do.” I interpret all we can do to mean the best that we know how considering our circumstances, emotional and mental health, stage of spiritual development, knowledge, etc. We try to do the best in all areas of our life, so that when we have to account for how we have behaved and treated our friends and family we can confidently state that we did the best we knew how and mean it. If you don’t feel like you can say this, figure out why and try to fix it. Life is never guaranteed.

If you’re afraid of uncertainty, work on living by faith. The scriptures teach us that God is the same yesterday, today, and forever. If you need an anchor in uncertain times, He is that anchor. He’s the one thing that scriptures teach us does not change. Jesus promised us this, “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.”

To read more that I've written about Faith click here.

What is Faith?

Faith is the first principle of the Gospel of Jesus Christ because it is the foundation upon which everything else rests. It’s important for us to understand what faith is because it is a multi-faceted concept that needs to be understood as a whole. Faith is not about believing without evidence. Faith is also not about hoping or wishing hard enough, just as a lack of faith isn’t a character flaw. The lack of faith is a lack of knowledge about what faith actually is and how it has power. Faith is a concept of divine law through which all things are possible. Knowledge of the Gospel of Jesus Christ can only make sense when it hinges on this one pivotal and crucial understanding.

Sometimes when people are struggling through trials, we hear people say that this individual “just doesn’t have enough faith,” implying that if they did their problems would no longer concern them, or that they would be blessed with the things that they are seeking if they just believed hard enough. Speaking this way oversimplifies the actual issues at play, disregarding the Lord’s timing, and making it sound as though faith were something easily acquired through determined wishing. It also seems to imply that a testimony of the restored Gospel or of Jesus Christ automatically generates faith, and that a lack of faith must signify a weak or non-existent testimony of the restored Gospel or Christ, neither of which is true.

We sometimes speak about faith as though it were a simple concept, easily attained. I believe that most of us think we have faith, until we consider that the Lord said that if we had the faith of a grain of mustard seed, we could tell a tree to pluck itself up by the root, and plant itself in the sea and it would do it (Luke 17:6). Can you do that? So far I haven’t been able to move any trees or any mountains with my faith.

In Lectures on Faith, we learn there are steps to truly understanding faith. First, we need to know what it is. Second, we need to know “the object upon which it rests” (Lecture 1:4), and third, we need to understand “the effects which flow from it” (Lecture 1:5).

Faith is defined as the “assurance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen” (JST Heb 11:1). This is further explained in Lectures on Faith as “the principle of action in all intelligent beings.” Faith is explained as the factor that motivates us to do anything, temporal or spiritual. It is by faith that we attain anything in this life. Whenever we don’t have something, we believe it is possible to attain, and we take action to make our belief a reality. “Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you’re right.” (attributed to Henry Ford)

In Lectures on Faith we are asked “was it not the hope which you had, in consequence of your belief in the existence of unseen things, which stimulated you to action and faith, or belief, for the acquisition of all knowledge, wisdom and intelligence unless you did believe that you could obtain them? In a word, is there anything that you would have done, either physical or mental, if you had not previously believed? Your food, your raiment, your lodgings—are they not all by reason of your faith?”

Faith is the sole factor that motivates us to action in all circumstances. We are hungry, we are assured that there is food in the fridge and it can become a sandwich, and we take action to make that sandwich become reality. We need a job, and that the possibility to be employed is possible, even though it does not exist yet. We are moved to action, applying for jobs and networking, taking steps to make our belief a reality. By taking these steps, the manifestation of our faith becomes a reality. We need money and have an assurance that we will get a paycheck, which motivates us to action and we go to work, and through our efforts the thing which we hoped for and believed was possible became reality. We hope there is a loving God in heaven and that he will manifest his will to us, which motivates us to the action of prayer, and through our efforts we receive an answer.

If faith is the principle of action and is of God, we can understand through opposition that the principle of inaction or stagnation is not of God. We are told that “faith, if it hath not works, is dead, being alone” (James 2:17). This can be understood to mean that faith without obedience, or faith without continued effort and action is gone.

We are also taught that faith is the principle of power. It is the “principle of power in the Deity as well as in man.” (Lectures on Faith) Faith is the actual power through which miracles are wrought (Moroni 7). President Boyd K. Packer also expressed this sentiment in his talk entitled These Things I Know, when he said, “I have come to know that faith is a real power, not just an expression of belief.”

We also learn that “Through faith we understand that the worlds were framed by the word of God, so that things which are seen were not made of things which do appear” (Heb. 11:3: Lecture 1:14–16). This power of creation in God is the same power of creation in man. It helps me to think of faith as the spiritual creation that precedes temporal creation, as we understand that “the Lord God, created all things, of which I have spoken, spiritually, before they were naturally upon the face of the earth” (Moses 3:5). Lectures on Faith tells us “It was by faith that the worlds were framed—God spake, chaos heard, and worlds came unto order by reason of the faith there was in him” and faith “is the first great governing principles which has power, dominion, and authority over all things” (Lecture 1:24). “Without it there is no power” (Lecture 1:24).

Lecture two also teaches us that God “is the object in whom the faith of all other rational and accountable beings centers for life and salvation.” I postulate that the link which moves faith from being merely a belief and a principle of action to being a principle of power is a correct understanding of the object upon which it rests, or a clear understanding of God. “God is the only supreme governor and independent being in whom all fulness and perfection dwell. He is omnipotent, omnipresent, and omniscient, without beginning of days or end of life. In him every good gift and every good principle dwell, and he is the Father of lights. In him the principle of faith dwells independently, and he is the object in whom the faith of all other rational and accountable beings centers” (lecture 2.2). I believe that a correct understanding of the nature or character of God is crucial to giving beliefs power because of the evidence I have seen of this in my life and the lives of others. When someone believes in a higher power of goodness, be it God or the universe, they are using their agency to allow a higher power other than themselves to assist them in achieving their goals or their pursuit of good things—in essence they are giving God permission to work within their lives.

There are three elements that are essential for true faith: an assurance in things not seen, action, and power which comes from being centered upon correct understanding of the source (goodness) of that power. I think of it like a TV. The TV is faith, and pressing the remote to turn it on is the principle of action. You can push the remote all you want, but if the television isn’t plugged into the outlet or an understanding of the power of goodness that is available to help you, you’re on your own. Nothing much is going to happen. The more faith you have in the nature of God as he is, the more power you will have access to and the more you will be able to accomplish.

Friedrich Nietzsche, known for his philosophy and famous phrase that “God is Dead” said that “Faith means not wanting to know what is true.” If we only believe in God and Christ and His Gospel because, dogma, it’s what we’re supposed to believe and we are afraid to question it out of fear of heresy, then Nietzsche is right. However, this is not what true faith is.

Bertrand Russell also said, “We may define 'faith' as a firm belief in something for which there is no evidence. When there is evidence, no one speaks of 'faith.' We do not speak of faith that two and two are four or that the earth is round. We only speak of faith when we wish to substitute emotion for evidence.” Bertrand is mostly right. Faith is a belief or hope for something for which there is no initial evidence. When there is evidence, no one speaks of faith—they speak of knowledge, testimony, or conversion. Faith is only the first step. We must go by more than belief, hope, or emotion—we must also go by evidence, knowledge, and reason. We must not allow ourselves to substitute emotion or faith for the knowledge that it is our duty to attain.

In Mark 12:30, we are told that we should “love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment.” The first commandment and the first principle of the Gospel are inseparably connected. These two things together, faith and love for the Lord, are the basis of our testimony of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. This is the foundation upon which we build all other gospel knowledge and principles.

Now, if you’re like most people, you might be resistant to this. You might not like the idea of being told what to do, much less being told who to love. Most people are going to want to know why. And if this was your first response, then you’re doing well. You’re ahead of the game. Just because we believe that the Gospel of Jesus Christ has been restored doesn’t mean we know anything else. It doesn’t mean we automatically love God. It doesn’t even mean that we know why we’re supposed to love God. But if your first thought was to ask why, then you’re doing things right.

In Matthew 18:1-4, the disciples came to Jesus and asked him who was the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. Jesus told a little kid to come over, and set the child in front of them and told them that unless they were converted, and were like little children, they wouldn’t make it into heaven. I believe that the disciples must have been perplexed by this answer, wondering what the heck that little kid had that they didn’t.

Jesus knew they were confused, and tried to explain it a little further for them, “Whosoever therefore shall humble himself as this little child, the same is greatest in the kingdom of heaven” (Matt 18:4). But what does that mean? I believe that it means that we have to realize that we don’t know everything. In fact, we have to realize that we know almost nothing. If we realize that, and concede that their just might be a higher power that might know more than we do, then we’re on the right track. When we know that we don’t know everything, we can become great.

Little children know that they don’t know things, which is why they always are always asking everyone why. They ask “why” to an infuriating degree, because they genuinely want to understand. This necessity of using intellect and reason to understand the purpose of God and his nature is absolutely crucial. One argument that many people have against organized religion as a whole is that in many circumstances individuals are expected to accept the teachings of religion upon faith only, or a fear of hell, and that anything unexplainable is merely a mystery of God, and therefore unknowable.

An understanding of God, or religion, was never intended to be truths accepted merely by faith or antiquated customs for less enlightened people. Galileo stated, “I do not feel obliged to believe that same God who endowed us with sense, reason, and intellect had intended for us to forgo their use.” We are not intended to be merely “believers” based upon someone else’s word alone. Robert Ingersoll, known as The Great Agnostic said, “A believer is a bird in a cage. A freethinker is an eagle parting the clouds with tireless wing.” We are meant to be freethinkers, eagles soaring in the clouds of knowledge and reaching true conclusions about the existence and goodness of God, not based merely upon acceptance of doctrine or trust of leaders, but based upon evidence from our lives and personal experience.

Brigham Young said, “I am. . . afraid that this people have so much confidence in their leaders that they will not inquire for themselves of God whether they are led by him. I am fearful they settle down in a state of blind self-security, trusting their eternal destiny in the hands of their leaders with a reckless confidence . . . Let every man and woman know, by the whispering of the Spirit of God to themselves. . .” (Brigham Young, 9:150) Immanuel Kant a German philosopher and empiricist said, “Enlightenment is man's leaving his self-caused immaturity. Immaturity is the incapacity to use one's own understanding without the guidance of another. Such immaturity is self-caused if its cause is not lack of intelligence, but by lack of determination and courage to use one's intelligence without being guided by another. The motto of enlightenment is therefore: Sapere aude! Have courage to use your own intelligence!”

Empiricism is a philosophy that speculates that knowledge or understanding comes only or mostly from personal, sensory experience. Empiricism emphasizes evidence as a means to knowledge, especially through experimentation. “It is a fundamental part of the scientific method that all hypotheses and theories must be tested against observations of the natural world rather than resting solely on a prior reasoning, intuition, or revelation.” (Wikipedia Empiricism) The arguments for empiricism, indeed even atheism, is that the only way to discern absolute truth is from personal experience.

When we come into this world, the sole basis for our understanding of the world and absolute truth is our own mind and our own senses. Parents, teachers, and leaders can guide us in this endeavor, but ultimately, it is our own experience, or the evidence from our lives that allows us to discern truth from error. Will Durrant, a writer and philosopher said a very similar thing when he said that “The great snare of thought is uncritical acceptance of . . . assumptions.”

Bertrand Russell, a British philosopher and Nobel Prize award winner agreed with this statement when he wrote, “I wish to propose for the reader's favourable consideration a doctrine which may, I fear, appear wildly paradoxical and subversive. The doctrine in question is this: that it is undesirable to believe a proposition when there is no ground whatever for supposing it true.” I agree with him. I think that it is undesirable, illogical, and wrong to form our beliefs and opinions based upon insufficient evidence. William Kingdon Clifford, the man who suggested the geometric theory of gravity that Albert Einstein later developed agreed with me. He said, “It is wrong always, everywhere, and for anyone, to believe anything upon insufficient evidence.”

By learning from the individuals who we consider great—great philosophers, great artists, great mathematicians, great scientists, great political leaders, great writers,--we can begin to be convinced of the paramount importance of truth, or knowledge attained through the use of honest evaluation of evidence and careful use of reason. We can learn of the truths that they discovered, comparing them across time and fields of study to discern the lessons common to us all. The quest for truth and knowledge is of widespread importance. Philosophers, artists, writers, intellectuals, scientists, atheists, agnostics, and Members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints all agree upon this, placing singular importance on the necessity of gathering evidence for oneself as a means of knowing truth.

An atheist writer online called Ignots Pistachio wrote, “The more evidence and reason that accrues in support of a particular viewpoint, the less real choice remains in "opting" to accept that position. Beyond a certain point, it becomes absurd to hold any other view; the evidence essentially forces one to "believe", regardless of what anyone has historically (or contemporaneously) believed. The only "alternative" to this is to choose a belief in conflict with the available evidence, which is equivalent to making a conscious decision to believe something false . . .” I love this statement—I wholeheartedly agree with it.

How would these great thinkers—philosophers, scientists, empiricists, rationalists—propose that we discern truth from error and provide evidence of natural law? I think that most of them would accept the scientific method as an acceptable technique for investigating and testing new knowledge. The Oxford English Dictionary defines the scientific method as: "a method or procedure that has characterized natural science since the 17th century, consisting in systematic observation, measurement, and experiment, and the formulation, testing, and modification of hypotheses."

The reason that the scientific method is so valued as a method of acquiring knowledge is because it seeks to let reality speak for itself, or when something is true the evidence will support and confirm a true theory. If a theory is incorrect, subjecting it to unbiased testing will reveal that when its predicted outcomes prove to be false. The steps to the scientific method are as follows: 1) Ask a question, 2) Do Background Research, 3) Construct a Hypothesis, 4) Test your Hypothesis by Conducting an Experiment, 5) Analyze Your Data and Draw a Conclusions, and 6) Communicate your results. It is important to note that the scientific method requires that test conditions be conducive to the experiment, or you may get skewed or incorrect results.

The steps to the experiment must be repeatable by other individuals to prove the hypothesis, rather than relying on any bias, confusion, or mistakes of one experimenter. Results from unrelated experiments can be put together in a coherent way to explain larger phenomenon or to support one another, giving context for groups of hypotheses. In this manner, knowledge obtained is meant to be as objective as possible in order to prevent biased interpretations of results.

Another expectation in the scientific method is to document, archive, and share all data and methodology Another basic expectation is to document, record, and share all data and experimental details so that they are available for other scientists and individuals to analyze. This way they can attempt to verify the results of the original experiment by trying to reproduce them. Fully disclosing all information related to the experiment allows the reliability of the data to be established.

Fortunately, the religion that I know doesn’t conflict with any of this. In fact, it is built upon the exact same principles. 1) We are supposed to ask or form a question in our mind. 2) We are supposed to do our research and try to figure things out for ourselves. God expects us to use the intellect he gave us: “7 Behold, you have not understood; you have supposed that I would give it unto you, when you took no thought save it was to ask me. 8 But, behold, I say unto you, that you must study it out in your mind; then you must ask me if it be right . . .” (D&C 9:7-8) 3) We are supposed to construct a hypothesis, or reach a conclusion or decision on our own about what is correct, right, true, or best. 4) We are supposed to test our hypothesis by conducting an experiment in our lives, or experimenting with application of Gospel principles. It is important to note that the scientific method requires that test conditions be conducive to the experiment, or you may get skewed or incorrect results. Likewise, spiritual experimentation requires favorable test conditions as well to achieve optimum and accurate results. 5) Following our experiment, we are supposed to analyze our data and draw conclusions. 6) After we experiment and reach a conclusion, we are supposed to communicate our results, or bear testimony.

Another expectation in spiritual experimentation is to document and archive our beliefs or hypothesis and our conclusions or testimony, which is the result of experimentation and application. We are meant to share this data with others so that they may listen or read and seek to understand our experiences so that they can replicate the experiments, verifying their validity by their own duplication of the experiment. Spiritual experiments or applications must have repeatable results to prove the hypothesis (as are scientific experiments), for we are not meant to be merely believers and we must not rely on any one experimenter, in case of bias, confusion, or mistakes on their part.

Alma 32 explains the process and conditions required for spiritual experimentation, explaining in detail how we can test our hypothesis by conducting spiritual experiments which culminate in knowledge or testimony. I’ve most often heard this set of scriptures talked about in regards to faith, but these scriptures go beyond that, discussing the process from faith to knowledge and the conditions that must be present for this to occur.

We’ve all heard the comparison that faith is like a seed. If we expound upon this comparison in our mind, we can understand it to an even greater degree. Plants are interesting organisms. They require specific conditions to thrive. There are desert plants like succulents that grow in the desert and require lots of sun, very little humidity, and infrequent watering where the soil is allowed to dry out between watering.

On the other hand there are plants like the anthurium, a species of flowering plant that originates from very wet, humid rainforest environments. These plants require a lot of humidity and more frequent watering with well-draining soil. The funny thing is, if you tried to take care of a succulent like an Anthurium, it would suffer. It wouldn’t grow, and it would probably die. Plants require very specific conditions for them to flourish.

As in the scientific method, the conditions for the success of the experiment must be met before the results will be accurate and replicable. Alma explains to us the conditions that are required for us to nurture or cultivate faith and knowledge in ourselves. Two of the most necessary conditions are the desire to know and a willingness to believe. Saint Augustine taught us that we must “Seek not to understand that you may believe, but believe that you may understand.” To gain faith in any concept, we have to experiment. All that is required of us initially is a desire and a willing heart and mind. If we allow the word or concept to have a place within us, we will feel it begin to enlighten our understanding. That will increase the faith that we exercised to begin the experiment. However, at this point it isn’t knowledge.

We know that it is good because we can feel it and it enlightens our understanding, but we still don’t have knowledge of the truthfulness of the concept. At this point, we have only exercised enough faith to know that the seed was good. If we continue choosing faith, it will grow to be a perfect knowledge, as long as we don’t abandon it. The Malaysian political leader Prince Tunku Putra Abdul Rahman said, “Some people think that as soon as you plant a tree, it must bear fruit. We must allow it to grow a bit.” Like plants, testimony just takes time to grow. Epictetus, an ancient Greek philosopher said, "No greater thing is created suddenly, any more than a bunch of grapes or a fig. If you tell me that you desire a fig, I answer you that there must be time. Let it first blossom, then bear fruit, then ripen."

There might be things you can do to increase the rate of growth, but it just takes time. We must guard our faith, hopes, and dreams. They are delicate. Woodrow Wilson, the 28th President of the United States said, “You should nurse your dreams and protect them through bad times and tough times to the sunshine and light which always come.” I propose that we must also nurse our faith and protect it through bad and tough times to the sunshine and light which always come. As we care for our faith, hopes, and dreams and take appropriate action, they begin to bear fruit or produce evidence of their truthfulness. “And when we choose faith and then nurture that faith to a perfect knowledge of the things of the Lord, then we use the words “I testify” or “I know” (Faith—The Choice is Yours Oct 2010) Testimony is personal knowledge or conclusion reached through an accumulation of evidence gained through experimentation on faith.

When we experiment on God’s promises and have gotten results, then we have a testimony of the principle we have experimented upon. We also know that obedience to the principle results in a corresponding blessing. At that point we have testimony of that concept or that principle. Sam Harris, famous for writing An Atheist Manifesto, wrote “When we have reasons for what we believe, we have no need of faith. . . Atheism is nothing more than a commitment to the most basic standard of intellectual honesty: One’s convictions should be proportional to one’s evidence. Pretending to be certain when one isn’t--indeed, pretending to be certain about propositions for which no evidence is even conceivable--is both an intellectual and a moral failing.”

He is absolutely right. We need to have reasons for what we believe, beyond faith or belief. And when we have reasons for what we believe, this is called testimony or knowledge. I believe that religion should also be a commitment to a basic standard of intellectual honesty. Our convictions should be proportional to our evidence. We can’t be certain of something without evidence and we shouldn’t pretend that we are—to do so is hypocritical and wrong.

Fortunately for us it is possible to accumulate spiritual evidence for ourselves. The God that I know doesn’t get angry or offended if you question Him. In fact, He expects it. He would be disappointed if we didn’t question. The very best argument I have for believing in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints is that we are not asked to merely believe. In fact, we are urged not to. We are dared to experiment, urged to find out all things for ourselves. “And when ye shall receive these things, I would exhort you that ye would ask God, the Eternal Father, in the name of Christ, if these things are not true; and if ye shall ask with a sincere heart, with real intent, having faith in Christ, he will manifest the truth of it unto you, by the power of the Holy Ghost.

5 And by the power of the Holy Ghost ye may know the truth of all things.” (Moroni 10:4-5) We are taught to accumulate evidence for ourselves, until we reach the point where it would be absurd to hold any other view, based upon the evidence and reason that has accrued in support of our understanding of life and God. We are not meant to be merely believers—we are meant to be free thinkers.

I believe that this is why we are counseled to become as little children. We must realize how much we don’t know, and be humble enough to seek to understand, asking for answers to the things we don’t comprehend. We’re supposed to ask why—about everything. Atheist and writer H.P. Lovecraft understood this. He said, “If religion were true, its followers would not try to bludgeon their young into an artificial conformity; but would merely insist on their unbending quest for truth, irrespective of artificial backgrounds or practical consequences.”

Our beliefs and convictions should not be based solely on emotion or faith, nor should it be solely based in reason or evidence. Reason is required to test the congruence of our convictions with the evidence we have—we are intended to intellectually evaluate our beliefs and consciously make choices. The truest knowledge comes from a marriage of both reason and emotion, or mind and heart. Doctrine and Covenants 8 expounds upon this telling us that “…assuredly as the Lord liveth, who is your God and your Redeemer, even so surely shall you receive a knowledge of whatsoever things you shall ask in faith, with an honest heart, believing that you shall receive a knowledge . . . 2 Yea, behold, I will tell you in your mind and in your heart, by the Holy Ghost, which shall come upon you and which shall dwell in your heart. 3 Now, behold, this is the spirit of revelation;”

The good part about faith, knowledge, and testimony is we don’t have to have anything but a desire to experiment. If we only desire knowledge regarding a principle or truth, God can work with that. We are expected to have doubts, but we are asked not to throw out the goodness of the truth just because of them. If our doubts are too great, we can do as the father of the child in Mark 9:24 who said, “Lord, I believe; help thou mine unbelief.” It only takes desire to change ourselves or a desire to believe. If we can’t even believe in the possibility of change but still wish it were possible, that desire is enough. God can work with that. If we don’t know how change is possible, that’s okay too. We don’t have to know how. He knows how.

William James, a philosopher and psychologist said, “To change one’s life: Start immediately. Do it flamboyantly. No exceptions.” It only takes the desire to choose happiness. We are only required to do what we can, and do in manageable steps, “for it is not requisite that a man should run faster than he has strength” (Mosiah 4:27). The choice is possible to make and we should start now.

When we consider it in its most basic sense, the concept of faith is simple. We believe something we can’t see, and we take action because of that belief. There is power when belief is centered on the correct object, or an understanding of power stemming from God as He is, a being who encompasses all qualities that are good. If faith really is that simple, why is it so hard to have? How do we get true faith? The answer lies not in belief or in action, but in a correct understanding of the source from which the power of faith stems.

Because God is the object upon which all faith rests, I believe the most important and crucial testimony we can ever gain is a testimony of a good and unconditionally loving God, for it is only through that lens that any principle of the Gospel will make sense. Only through that lens can we remain faithful amid trial and temptation. Only through that lens will we ever be able to do the things required of us. The crucial ingredient to our success on earth is a testimony of the true nature of God by learning of his character and attributes.

Sometimes we know all the right answers. We know what we are supposed to think and how we are supposed to feel, and things just don’t make sense. If this Gospel promises us happiness when we follow its principles and we’re doing the best we know how and we don’t feel happy, what does that mean? Does it mean that the Gospel isn’t true? Does it mean that we are wicked, damaged or somehow unworthy? What else can we possibly do more than believe and live the best way we know how? Are we just not trying hard enough? Or is our best simply not enough? How can we believe on a God who doesn’t keep his end of the promise?

If you are racked with turmoil, if you can hardly believe in goodness or God at all, remember the words of Alma:

“12 But I was racked with eternal torment, for my soul was harrowed up to the greatest degree and racked with all my sins.

13 Yea, I did remember all my sins and iniquities, for which I was tormented with the pains of hell; yea, I saw that I had rebelled against my God, and that I had not kept his holy commandments.

14 Yea, and I had murdered many of his children, or rather led them away unto destruction; yea, and in fine so great had been my iniquities, that the very thought of coming into the presence of my God did rack my soul with inexpressible horror.

15 Oh, thought I, that I could be banished and become extinct both soul and body, that I might not be brought to stand in the presence of my God, to be judged of my deeds.

16 And now, for three days and for three nights was I racked, even with the pains of a damned soul.

17 And it came to pass that as I was thus racked with torment, while I was harrowed up by the memory of my many sins, behold, I remembered also to have heard my father prophesy unto the people concerning the coming of one Jesus Christ, a Son of God, to atone for the sins of the world.

18 Now, as my mind caught hold upon this thought, I cried within my heart: O Jesus, thou Son of God, have mercy on me, who am bin the gall of bitterness, and am encircled about by the everlasting chains of death.

19 And now, behold, when I thought this, I could remember my pains no more; yea, I was harrowed up by the memory of my sins no more.

20 And oh, what joy, and what marvelous light I did behold; yea, my soul was filled with joy as exceeding as was my pain!

21 Yea, I say unto you, my son, that there could be nothing so exquisite and so bitter as were my pains. Yea, and again I say unto you, my son, that on the other hand, there can be nothing so exquisite and sweet as was my joy.” (Alma 36:12-21)

If you cannot believe in the goodness of God, or if you cannot believe in God at all, try to believe only that there must be opposition in all things (2 Nephi 2:11). Put your faith in the hope that if you can experience such pain, surely such joy exists. If you find it easier to believe in evil and pain, know that there must be good and happiness also. When you have a more firm belief in the existence of goodness, then seek to learn why you should love God and learn of his nature. It is enough to only want to believe. As negative as you feel about the world today, your life circumstance, or yourself know that there is opposition to this that can be yours.

In a Christmas Calvin and Hobbes comic strip, Calvin and Hobbes have the following conversation:




Calvin: Well, I've decided I DO believe in Santa Claus, no matter how preposterous he sounds.

Hobbes: What convinced you?

Calvin: A simple risk analysis. I want presents. LOTS of presents. Why risk not getting them over a matter of belief? Heck, I'll believe anything they want.

Hobbes: How cynically enterprising of you.

Calvin: It's the spirit of Christmas.



Now it may be blasphemous for me to compare God to a Calvin and Hobbes comic strip conversation, but I’m going to do it anyway.




Person 1: Well, I've decided I DO believe in a God who encompasses all that is good or at least a power of goodness in the universe, no matter how preposterous it sounds.

Person 2: What convinced you?

Person 1: A simple risk analysis. I want blessings. LOTS of blessings. Why risk not getting them over a matter of belief? Heck, I'll believe anything they want.

Person 2: How cynically enterprising of you.




If the possibility for good things in life, or blessings, exists if we merely tap into the power of goodness in the universe (which is God), then why wouldn’t we try it? If believing in a power of goodness really resulted in good things in our lives (or blessings, heck, even LOTS of blessings) why wouldn’t we try it out? People forward stupid emails and Facebook posts on the off chance they might get something free. Why wouldn’t we experiment with the belief of a God of Goodness on the off chance that he might actually exist and bless us?

In the book of Numbers when the Israelites are wandering in the wilderness and there’s a plague of fiery serpents biting people. People are dying from it and the Israelites ask Moses to ask the Lord to take the serpents away. Moses is told to put a brass serpent on pole and raise it up. The people who were bitten could be healed if they looked at the brass serpent. A lot of people refused to do it because they were stubborn and didn’t believe that it would work. They would rather die than just try it out, just in case it actually worked. 1 Nephi 17:41 said, “and after they were bitten he prepared a way that they might be healed; and the labor which they had to perform was to look; and because of the simpleness of the way, or the easiness of it, there were many who perished.” I propose that on the off-chance a truly good and loving God exists who is waiting and desiring to bless us and wants us to be happy, we ought to try to believe in Him. Just as an experiment, on the off chance that it might be true.

In our quest to discover the existence of God, we should consider the guidance he has given us. The first great commandment is to love the Lord our God. Why would this be the first commandment? And how can we love someone we don’t know? If we think about it, we’ll realize that we can’t truly love someone we don’t know, which is why we must come to know Him. How do we do this? How do we “get to know” someone we never meet in person, never really see? We learn about Him. We read about Him. We talk with Him. We try to understand why anyone would love Him. We try to figure out what would make us love someone, and try to see if He has those characteristics.

We’re not all on our own. We have some guidelines to help us figure out what he’s done for us—like the scriptures or the counsel to be grateful. Well, why be grateful? Why does God want us to be grateful? Is it because he is an egotistical maniac sitting in the sky, who wants to listen to praise all day from his loyal creations while he lounges on a cloud? Is it because He’s stingy with the gifts that He gives us, and wants to make sure we recognize each and every one? No, that can’t be it because that certainly doesn’t make us want to love Him.

Could it be that by recognizing the good things that we have, we will recognize even more good things that we have, and realize that we are very blessed people? Could it be that recognizing the good things we have makes us realize we are very lucky and it makes us happy? Could it be that by focusing on good things, we forget the bad things instead of the other way around? Could it possibly be, that doing the things that God has counseled us to do directly results in happiness? That he told us to do those things in an effort to make us happy? Could it be that He gave us all these lists of guidelines and counsel because it was for our own good? Or is it because He is so powerful that we have to follow His rules because He said it, or we will rot in hell?

It just might be possible that he gave us the guidelines (or counsel, or commandments) he did for our own good. Because they’d make us happy. And if that was true, then God wanted us to be happy. And if he wants us to be happy, then he must love us, he must be nice. If we can begin to recognize the nature of God as He is, it will be harder for us to be confused, hurt, or misled. I might go so far as to say that it might be impossible for us not to have true faith if the only thing we come to truly understand is the nature of God as he truly is. “We love him, because he first loved us.” (1 John 4:19)

That’s a really nice concept, but how can we really know of his nature? One example from the scriptures that illustrates the nature and goodness of God is found in Alma 26. I’m going to paraphrase portions of the chapter, putting through the lens of modern language to show how I understand it. Alma was talking to his brethren, and said, “Hey guys, do you realize how many reasons we have to be happy? When we left Zarahemla, could we even have imagined how many blessings God would give us? Our friends the Lamanites were sinning and miserable, but look at how many of them have come to know the goodness of God! That was the greatest blessing we’ve ever gotten! We got to be the instruments that God used to make that happen!

Literally thousands of people are happy and have come unto God. They were ready for the message, and we were blessed and worked with everything we had. Look at the great things that happened! We saved people! Now they won’t be tossed around in the storm and the whirlwinds of their circumstance. When bad things happen to them, they can stand together and help each other. They won’t be subject to the whims and influence of the devil and be led wherever he wants them to go.

They’re under God’s influence now. They’re His, and He’ll make them enough. We should bless God—we should sing praises to Him. We should thank him forever because he is so good and so cool. If we hadn’t listened and left Zarahemla, our friends and brothers and sisters would still hate us and they wouldn’t have known God.”

Aaron, Ammon’s brother gets a little concerned hearing Ammon get so excited and he says, “Dude, Ammon, you’re getting carried away. I think you’re getting too excited and you’re bragging.”

Ammon responds, “I’m not bragging about myself or how smart I am. I’m bragging about God. He is so merciful and so kind and so good that I can hardly contain myself. I know I’m nothing. I’m weak. I know I have nothing to brag about, but I’ll brag about God. With Him, I can do anything! Miracles have happened here because of what we’ve done, and I’ll praise Him and brag about how cool God is forever.

Thousands of our friends and brothers and sisters have been freed from torment and anguish—from the pains of hell—through his word. They are freed from torment and now they understand His redeeming love. We did that! Don’t we have reason to get excited? We have a reason to get excited and praise him forever! And we were the instruments that made that happen. So let’s brag and give Him credit. We’ll rejoice, and praise God forever. Who can praise the Lord too much? Who can say too many good things about his power, and his mercy, and his patience toward us? I can’t even say the smallest part of what I feel.

Who could have thought that God would be so merciful as to snatch us from our awful, sinful, and polluted state? We were angry and determined to destroy his Church. Why didn’t he condemn us to misery and suffering? Why didn’t he let justice doom us to eternal despair when we deserved it? I’m terrified just thinking about it. But he didn’t exercise justice. He brought us out of death and misery because of his mercy. Not only did he not condemn us, he saved and redeemed our souls.

Do you remember that when we told everyone we were going to the land of Nephi to preach to the Lamanites how they laughed at us? They asked us if we really thought we could bring them to the knowledge of the truth. They asked if we really thought we could convince them of the wrongness of the things they’ve been taught their whole lives. They said we should go to war with them and kill them before they outnumbered us and destroyed us. But we didn’t come to kill them. We came hoping we might be able to save a few of their souls. And when we were discouraged and about to turn back, the Lord comforted us and told us that if we just had patience we would be successful.

We went into their homes and taught them. We taught them in the streets. We taught them outside. We taught them in temples and synagogues. They threw us out, mocked us, spit on us, hit us, and threw rocks at us. They tied us up and threw us in prison and through all of this the power and wisdom of God delivered us again. We suffered a lot hoping we might save someone’s soul—maybe more than one. Look at what we accomplished—we had a lot of success. We know they’re sincere because of the love they show to others and us. They would rather die than kill an enemy now—they buried their weapons so they couldn’t use them because they love their brethren so much.

We haven’t even seen love that great among our own people. We would go to war before we would allow ourselves to be killed. But look at how many of these people have died for what they believe. Don’t we have a reason to be happy and excited? There’s never been anyone who had more reason to be happy since the world began! I am so happy that I’m getting carried away. I’m bragging about my God because he has all power, all wisdom, and all understanding. He knows everything, he is merciful, and he’ll save us if we just repent and believe in Him

If this is bragging, I’m going to brag. This is my life, my happiness, my salvation and my redemption. God is great! He’s been aware of his people, he’s been aware of us. God is concerned for and aware of all people, no matter where they are. He has mercy everywhere. This knowledge is my joy, it’s why I’m thankful, and I will thank my God forever.”

Wow. Ammon really was excited. Was he crazy? Or was he just that much better than us? He was so happy to be able to assist the God that he knew and loved. Could we ever be that way? Surely he’s an example of the exception and not the rule. He’s like our prophet today, right? He’s just better than us, right? It would take years, decades for us to ever develop that kind of faith. Right? Wrong. This Gospel is about the present. It’s about right now. Blessings right now, happiness right now, revelation right now, and miracles right now. We can all be great right now, “for he that is least among you all, the same shall be great” (Luke 9:48). Prophets, apostles, leaders, missionaries, and bishops are not better than us by virtue of their position. They aren’t entitled to blessings (aside from those pertaining to their stewardship), that we are not. We can be great like the men and women we read about. And not just someday in a few decades after we try really hard—we are supposed to choose to become great right now.

Marcus Aurelius, a Roman Emperor, gave sound advice when he said, “Live a good life. If there are gods and they are just, then they will not care how devout you have been, but will welcome you based on the virtues you have lived by. If there are gods, but unjust, then you should not want to worship them. If there are no gods, then you will be gone, but will have lived a noble life that will love on in the memories of your loved ones.” I would expound upon this by saying that it is our responsibility and duty to find out if God exists and if he is just. If he is just, we will want to be devout. We cannot try to live devoutly and worship a God that we do not love. To do so is the worst kind of hypocrisy. We are to reconcile ourselves unto God, or make peace with our God.

Because of trials and temptation, our true test in this life is to maintain our faith or belief in the goodness of God, in the midst of trial. If we can cling to our belief in the goodness and unconditionally loving nature of God, we will be comforted. If we falter, we will move away from the very source that could offer us comfort. If we doubt His goodness, we will lose our trust in Him. We will become miserable, amassing undesirable qualities like bitterness and resentment. As we allow those thoughts to dwell in our minds, we will believe that we are justified in feeling them.

Nephi tells us in 1 Nephi 19:23 that “I did liken all scriptures unto us, that it might be for our profit and learning.” We too can gain great insight by likening scriptures to ourselves. Consider the legendary examples of faith. One of the most obvious examples is Job. He was a good man. So good that he was afflicted with all sorts of trials. He had a hard time understanding what he had done wrong, wondering why he had even been born. Somehow he reached a point where, despite what he had gone through, he was able to say, “15 Though he slay me, yet will I trust in him”. Job had such faith in the goodness of God that he said the Lord could kill him and he would still trust him.

The people of Anti-Nephi-Lehi were so grateful that God had forgiven them of their grievous sins that they resolved not to commit the same mistakes again. Their commitment was irrevocable as they physically removed their temptation, burying their weapons so that they would not be able to use them. They explained their actions, “and our swords are made bright [through the atonement], let us hide them away that they may be kept bright, as a testimony to our God at the last day, or at the day that we shall be brought to stand before him to be judged, that we have not stained our swords in the blood of our brethren since he imparted his word unto us and has made us clean thereby.” (Alma 24:15)

They were willing to die before they would sin against the goodness and mercy that God had given to them. “23 Now when the Lamanites saw that their brethren would not flee from the sword, neither would they turn aside to the right hand or to the left, but that they would lie down and perish, and praised God even in the very act of perishing under the sword—” (Alma 24:23)

Are we so very different from these people? Could we possibly even hope to be like them? Can we comprehend being like them? What could make us willing to die for the Lord right now? What could make us willing to praise him no matter what? I believe that the answer must be that they learned of God. They saw evidence of his goodness in their lives, and at some point they made a choice. They made a choice to be happy and believe in His goodness no matter what evidence they might encounter in their lives that seemed to contradict that belief. They were committed, fully invested. They chose their side and from that point on never wavered. They were people just like us.

If we can believe in His goodness, we can trust in Him and have unwavering faith too. We can believe Him when he says:

“5 If thou art called to pass through tribulation; if thou art in perils among false brethren; if thou art in perils among robbers; if thou art in perils by land or by sea;

6 If thou art accused with all manner of false accusations; if thine enemies fall upon thee; if they tear thee from the society of thy father and mother and brethren and sisters; and if with a drawn sword thine enemies tear thee from the bosom of thy wife, and of thine offspring, and thine elder son, although but six years of age, shall cling to thy garments, and shall say, My father, my father, why can’t you stay with us? O, my father, what are the men going to do with you? and if then he shall be thrust from thee by the sword, and thou be dragged to prison, and thine enemies prowl around thee like wolves for the blood of the lamb;

7 And if thou shouldst be cast into the pit, or into the hands of murderers, and the sentence of death passed upon thee; if thou be cast into the deep; if the billowing surge conspire against thee; if fierce winds become thine enemy; if the heavens gather blackness, and all the elements combine to hedge up the way; and above all, if the very jaws of hell shall gape open the mouth wide after thee, know thou, my son, that all these things shall give thee experience, and shall be for thy good.” (Doctrine and Covenants 122:5-7)

If we knew who God is, we would not question his wisdom. We would trust that whatever we suffered, it was not needless. We would trust that there was a purpose. Though perhaps not all things happen for a reason, God could make reason out of all things. We would trust that no matter how horrible our experiences, God could take them and make us beautiful through them. I maintain that if we have a firm belief in the goodness and unconditionally loving nature of God, we will be able to believe that all things can be for our good. All of our suffering can have purpose. With God, all things can be transformed.

“1 The Spirit of the Lord God is upon me; because the Lord hath anointed me to preach good tidings unto the meek; he hath sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to them that are bound;

2 To proclaim the acceptable year of the Lord, and the day of vengeance of our God; to comfort all that mourn;

3 To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the Lord, that he might be glorified.” (Isaiah 61:1-3)

In Matthew, we read about a man who brought his son to the apostles to be healed and the apostles couldn’t do it. The child was brought before Jesus, who healed the child from that moment on. The apostles were confused and they couldn’t figure it out. They were supposed to be able to do it. They had all the right answers. They knew everything they needed to know. They came to Jesus and said, “Why couldn’t we do it?”

And Jesus told them, “Because you didn’t believe. Because if you had even the faith of a grain of mustard seed, you could tell a mountain to move somewhere else and it would move, and nothing would be impossible unto you.” (Matthew 17:20) Have you seen a mustard seed? It’s really small.

We are taught that we for our benefit and education, we are to “liken all scriptures unto us” (1 Nephi 19:23). This means that we need to put ourselves in the position of the individuals in the scriptures, under the assumption that they weren’t so very different from us, and try to understand how and why they did what they did and felt what they felt. It also means that the scriptures and the lessons in them are applicable to us in our lives here and now. We are supposed to take the scriptures literally. When Jesus says that if we had true faith that nothing would be impossible to us, he means that literally. Nothing would be impossible.

Elder M. Russell Ballard said, “If any one of you feels your faith or your testimony of Heavenly Father’s plan is less than you know it should be, then turn more fully to the Savior. Let His light and His living water do for you and your family what a little water and light did in bringing life back to [a] weakened . . . plant.” (This is My Work and Glory)

Make a commitment now to be optimistic and cheerful no matter your circumstance. Make a commitment to believe firmly one way or the other whether or not God is good and just. What have you got to lose but happiness and enjoyment if you don’t? H. G. Wells said, “If at the end your cheerfulness is not justified, at any rate you will have been cheerful.”

Monday, March 23, 2020

4 Steps to Overcoming Trauma

In a lucky twist of fate for all of you, my friends, I’ve been studying trauma for a while now. I’ve condensed what I’ve learned into a short summary. Suddenly understanding how to mitigate the effects of trauma (like reducing anxiety, reducing your susceptibility to depression, etc) seems relevant to everyone right now. Here’s what I’ve learned.

Everyone experiences some degree of trauma in their life. There are an infinite number of ways that we can be disappointed, frustrated, or have our hearts broken. Pain is part of the human experience, and no one escapes it. Pain is universal. That's the bad news. The good news is that even if you feel shattered, it doesn't mean you're broken.

I love the concept of Kintsugi, the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery fixing it with gold, silver, or platinum. Sometimes people refer to Kintsugi as the "art of precious scars." This concept can be motivating and transformational when we believe that we, like pottery, when pieced back together from whatever we've suffered can emerge on the other side stronger, more unique, and more beautiful as we wear our battle scars like glittering medals. I believe that this is entirely possible, if we keep fighting for the lives we want and the dreams we have for the world.


One thing often associated with trauma is post traumatic stress disorder, or PTSD. PTSD can have varying signs and symptoms, and you don't have to have all of the symptoms for it to count. Some of the most common symptoms of PTSD are vivid flashbacks (feeling like the trauma is happening right now), intrusive thoughts or images, nightmares, anxiety, addictive behaviors (like substance abuse or eating disorders), and physical sensations like pain, sweating, nausea, trembling, and sleep disturbances.

Trauma is different from other memories because the sights, sounds, smells, and feelings associated with it aren’t catalogued like normal memories are. The experiences are so overwhelming, that these disjointed pieces of our experience sit on the desktop of our mind, waiting to be integrated or filed into ourselves. The more we ignore these things, the more insistent they become (thinking that maybe we didn’t notice them). Some PTSD will require professional help to resolve, but for most of us with less disruptive effects of trauma or milder symptoms of PTSD, a few very simple things that we will discuss will help us reclaim ourselves.

From childhood trauma to soldiers returning from war, PTSD is an extremely common problem in our society. PTSD is said to affect millions of Americans every year, and that approximately one in 11 people will be diagnosed with PTSD in their lifetime. These are bleak statistics. Does it mean we're screwed if bad things happen to us?

Lucky for us, it doesn't mean that. We're not doomed to be screwed up in the future because of a screwed up present or past. In fact, there is a less talked about phenomenon associated with trauma called post traumatic growth. Post traumatic growth is the silver lining of hardship. Post traumatic growth is the positive growth or development seen in various areas of people's lives following trauma. This acceleration of growth and development is sometimes attributed to positive psychological changes that happen as an individual rises to a higher level of functioning in response to adversity and challenges.

Examples of post traumatic growth include when individuals emerge from hardship and find greater meaning and purpose in their lives, when they find clarity regarding priorities by understanding what is truly important to them, when people experience a heightened degree of empathy and understanding for others, and when people find a greater ability for serenity because they've learned not to sweat the small stuff.

Trauma is hard. It can be emotionally, mentally, and physically devastating, but it doesn’t have to be. There are very specific and simple steps that we can take to both endure trauma well and emerge intact. The same methods used to get through trauma are the ones that help heal after the fact. These steps are:

1. Learn how to be Calm and Focused

Many of us pride ourselves on our ability to multi-task and to be busy. Don’t mistake busyness with achievement or happiness. We need to cultivate the reverse skill of being still and being present in the moment body and mind. We have to learn how to relax. Just as the emotions that we feel can affect us physically (butterflies in your stomach, your gut twisted in knots, tensing up your neck and shoulders, rapidly beating heart, etc), the things that we do physically can affect our emotions. This is especially true for breathing, which is both in and out of our conscious control. When we focus on regulating and slowing our breathing, we are sending messages to our body that we are calm. We are safe. We are not in danger. This carefully cultivated state of calm allows us to influence our feelings and our bodies at chemical and neurological levels. Recommended activities for learning how to be calm and focused include meditation, prayer, yoga, thai chi, or creative pursuits.


2. Learn how to Maintain Calm

Once we learn how to be calm, we have to learn how to maintain our calm despite stresses and triggers. Life will throw lots of things at us, and we need to know how to stay calm despite setbacks (or truly awful things) that might happen. When we experience stress, our brains and bodies revert to fight or flight mode. We literally devolve a little by responding to perceived threats with our midbrain or brainstem in emotional or reflexive ways.

Although this might be helpful in an actual life or death situation, most of us are stressing out because of worry for an imagined future, not because of an actual imminent threat. We have to do things to restore rational thought in our minds. A lot of trauma experts call this “getting your frontal lobes back online.” Stressing about the future is only helpful to the extent that it changes your actions today. If you can take action today to put you in a better position for tomorrow, then you should do it. However, if you’re disrupting your zen just because of uncertainty, then you need to stop. Life was uncertain before whatever disrupted your calm happened, you just are finally recognizing that.

Maintaining calm in the face of stress is a critical life skill. We can work on keeping our frontal lobes online by doing tasks that require the frontal lobes like creative expression (art, writing, poetry, etc), problem solving, or learning language. Personality is also a concept that’s housed in the frontal lobes, so expressing yourself in creative ways or reminding yourself of the things you like can be helpful as well. Tasks or activities that cultivate awareness of body or environment are also useful. These types of activities (again like yoga, thai chi, meditation, etc) allow you to be present and recognize when you’re tensing up or stressing out and consciously work to relax. Being aware of the changes in your body allows you greater control over your feelings and your physical reactions to stress.


3. Find ways to Enjoy Now and Engage with Others

When circumstances are outside of your control, as they often are in life, you need to be able to find ways to engage and enjoy the present even though it may not be ideal. This means you need to do activities that you enjoy. Find ways to appreciate beauty or movement. Find ways to laugh, even if your humor gets a little dark. Find ways to engage with others. I know it’s not in person, and again, I know it’s not ideal. However, we still have the option of interacting with like-minded people on social media. We can still call, text, or video chat with friends and family. Because we’re social animals, being part of a tribe is how we feel safe and secure. Find or create your tribe. Support one another. Participate in fitness challenges. Attend online book clubs. If you’re single, date. Participate with the world through social media. If this is all too superficial for you, then focus on having a few meaningful and fulfilling relationships instead of empty “likes.” Engaging in ritual and rhythm (activities like singing and dance), especially as part of a community, can also be helpful.


4. Learn how to Be Honest With Yourself

When we are faced with traumatic or threatening situations, we behave in predictable ways. These ways include calling for help, submitting, fighting, fleeing, or freezing. These survival methods can be great ways to help us cope in the moment of danger, but they tend to be detrimental coping methods long term. The fragmenting of self leads us to have parts of ourselves that have competing desires and competing methods of coping. This theory of a self of parts can explain why post trauma individuals often struggle with addictive behaviors (drug abuse, obesity, anorexia) or mental health struggles (depression, overwhelm, anxiety).

To learn more about how these behaviors and reactions can be logical results of poor coping methods, I recommend reading Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors or The Body Keeps the Score. We must be introspective and know ourselves and recognize what we are doing to cope and choose whether or not those behaviors and reactions are benefiting us. This concept of being honest with ourselves is kind of complicated, because in trauma our regular healthy compartmentalization is exacerbated and we become more internally fragmented and less self aware. The solution to this is self awareness. We can see what we are doing and understand why we’re doing it. Helpful ways to implement this self honesty might be to meditate, talk to others, or journal.

Recommended Reading: Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors, The Body Keeps the Score

Saturday, March 21, 2020

Val's Email Sunday School: The Parable of the Olive Tree

This week after an earthquake in Salt Lake, Moroni’s horn was shaken loose from the Salt Lake Temple. Because Moroni’s horn symbolizes the spreading of the message of the Restoration of Christianity the irony of Moroni mike dropping his trumpet right before the conference commemorating the Restoration of Christianity is not lost on us. I’m extremely interested to see what the leaders of the church choose to talk about this year.

Last October President Nelson told us that Conference this April was to be designated a Bicentennial year commemorating the foundations of the restored Gospel. He told us that General Conference would be different from any previous Conference. He asked us to study and to consider the ways that our lives might be different without the Restoration of the Gospel and how the events following the First Vision affected us and our loved ones. He said that as we studied these things, came up with our own questions, and followed the direction of the spirit that Conference this April would not only be memorable, it would be unforgettable.

With the current health crisis requiring social distancing in most of the world, it appears that we’ve been given a front row seat to see exactly how our lives might be different without the restoration of the Gospel. We have a powerful object lesson before us as important parts of our lives have been stripped away. Temples for the most part (aside from some living ordinances) have been shut down. Church meetings have been canceled. All church related social activities have been canceled. As people pass away from this disease, we have the opportunity to think of our own loved ones we’ve lost, and the comfort and peace we find in believing in eternal families and life after death.

As we discuss the Restoration of the Gospel and the circumstances leading up to it, it’s hard not to make parallels to our day. Joseph Smith lived in a time of great “contentions and divisions, [with] wickedness and abominations, and . . . darkness . . . [pervading] the minds of mankind.” Joseph was “exceedingly distressed.” He was surrounded by “confusion and strife.” It was, he said, “impossible for a person . . . so unacquainted with men and things, to come to any certain conclusion who was right and who was wrong.” He said that “the cry and tumult were so great and incessant.” Both sides used “all the powers of both reason and sophistry” to prove that everyone else was wrong. Each side being “equally zealous in endeavoring to establish their own tenets and disprove all others.”

“In the midst of this war of words and tumult of opinions, I often said to myself: What is to be done? Who of all these parties are right; or, are they all wrong together? If any one of them be right, which is it, and how shall I know it?” Noise and fighting surrounds us, too. People argue about politics, gender, abortion, healthcare, and welfare. The noise of our digital world is staggering and seems to bear similarities to the noise that Joseph Smith encountered in real life.

Though the battlegrounds and buzzwords change, it appears that the war between good and evil, is still ongoing. Is there ultimate truth, or is morality subjective? Are some choices more right than others or is the correctness of a choice based on individual preference? Must we live with the consequences of our actions, or can those consequences be avoided or eliminated? Can we be happy forging our own path, or are there certain choices that are more likely to result in greater happiness and freedom in the long run? We live in a world where it is controversial to say that some choices lead to the most desirable outcomes, therefore those choices are morally right. The very concept of morality itself is dismissed as anti-science, uneducated, bigoted, superstitious, and unenlightened.

The reading in Jacob this week was all about the Parable of the Olive Tree, which is a symbolic story that teaches us about the scattering and gathering of Israel. In the scriptures surrounding the gathering, a specific phrase keeps popping up, talking about how "the last shall be first, and the first last.” At first the Gospel went out to the Jews. They were the chosen people of God. They weren’t allowed to preach Christ’s teachings at that point to the Gentiles. Now, in our day, we believe that the Gospel was restored to the Gentiles through Joseph Smith, and that in the last days we will preach it to the Jews. Thus, the last being first, and the first last.

In my understanding of the scattering and gathering of Israel, step one is to gather the gatherers. That’s the laborers in the vineyard who are going to harvest for the last time. That’s us as members of the church today. I think we typically think of these “gatherers” as people who are members of the tribes Ephraim and Manassah. We often have more temporal blessings and freedoms than people have in some other areas of the world, and because of that we have a greater responsibility. We are supposed to use the resources and privilege we have to “build the kingdom of God upon the earth.” What does this mean?

The concept of building the Kingdom of God is a threefold concept in my mind. First, we are to bring like minded people together to build a better society. We are to create the world as we wish it was. As we believe that all good things come from God, I think that this society would have all good things. We would have uplifting and beautiful books, art, music, and entertainment. We would use our ingenuity to cure disease, eliminate pollution, eradicate poverty all over the world, spread literacy, etc. It would be the world that we could have if people, regardless of ideological differences, could work together for the greater good. This is reinforced to me by the idea from the scriptures that after the Millennium, not all people will be members of Christ’s Church, at least not at first.

Bringing people to Christ’s teachings is also building the kingdom of God on the earth, and this can mean improving their lives in many ways. Helping others to improve their lives in terms of things like goal setting, self reliance, mental or physical health, or finance are all ways that we are adding light and knowledge to the world and spiritually building the kingdom of God. As we help people catch the vision of what the world could be like without greed, corruption, and selfishness, we are building the Kingdom of God upon the earth.

Second, there is to be a spiritual gathering that occurs before the physical gathering of the people of God. This would be when all the good people of the world who really do desire a better world would no longer be spiritually lost, as they come to a knowledge of their roots. The roots represent the promises and power they are entitled to through covenants like baptism and temple blessings. This would be represented by the good branches of the trees in the parable returning to the good roots to bear good fruit. Because the good roots appear to represent temple and spiritual blessings, this would imply a lot of people joining the church. I think the fruit is supposed to represent “fruits” of your labors, or the good things we will produce (hopefully like literacy, knowledge, freedom, and raising people from poverty).

Third, the gathering of Israel represents a “literal gathering of Israel” in which “Zion, the New Jerusalem, will be built upon the American continent.” We literally intend to build a huge “city” at some point (maybe it’s a city, maybe it’s a city that encompasses several states, I’m not clear on that from my studies) that the righteous get to live in while the wicked fight amongst themselves until the end. We’re told that the people in Zion will be the only people on earth who are not at war.

If Christ’s Second Coming “comes as a thief in the night” and that half of the members of the church aren’t even expecting it (the parable of the ten virgins) it seems to imply that the warring people aren’t physically at war as we usually think about it, but it might refer to civil unrest, mass shootings, terrorism, and perhaps a battle of words and opinions like in Joseph Smith’s day. The people among the church who are faithful and not distracted by all of this chaos will have eyes to see and ears to hear, who are watching for the signs and wonders of Christ’s coming will be prepared. It’s my understanding that the accelerated spiritual gathering is supposed to take place before the physical gathering, but that the physical gathering will not be complete until sometime in the Millennium.

The scriptures also say that we’re supposed to purchase the lands to build the city of Zion. It makes me think that as the Salt Lake Temple was to the early saints, so this city of Zion will be to us. To me this implies that we have a responsibility to be wise of stewards over our temporal monetary blessings so we can literally build the kingdom of God on earth physically, but also to allow us the financial freedom to build the kingdom in other ways like helping friends, family or neighbors in times of struggle. Money is also a tool that allows us to pursue good things that culturally create the kingdom of God. In addition, being financially well off enough to support ourselves allows us or our children to serve missions. I believe that most of the building of the kingdom of God will not be a physical building, but a spiritual awakening to how we can serve others the way that Christ would and mold the world into a healthier, more sustainable place.

In these scriptures we studied, we’re repeatedly told that the end draweth nigh, and that this is the last time that laborers will be sent out to gather the harvest. So, what should we be doing to prepare? Become familiar with scriptures. Know what is supposed to happen before Christ’s Coming, and watch for it. Work on your spiritual preparation by learning to trust the Lord. Learn to be able to live joyfully in uncertainty; because nothing is really ever certain anyway. Be still. Be of good cheer. Do not fear. We are to study the words of Isaiah.

The time before the Second Coming of Christ is something that a lot of people dread. It’s a time of great human suffering. What we tend to forget, though, that it isn’t a time of suffering for the faithful. We’ve been told the battle plans and the outcome of the battle in advance. We know what to expect. According to scripture, this will be a time of excitement and knowledge, when all things will be restored. This “restitution of all things” means that “every truth, doctrine, power, priesthood, gift, grace, miracle, ordinance, and mighty work ever possessed or performed in any age of faith shall come again.” We are to look forward with hope and conviction for the peace and perfection of Enoch’s city and Christ’s rule and reign.

As a last side note, President Spencer W. Kimball said in 1979 that “Much of the major growth that is coming to the Church in the last days will come because many of the good women of the world … will be drawn to the Church in large numbers. This will happen to the degree that the women of the Church reflect righteousness and articulateness in their lives and to the degree that the women of the Church are seen as distinct and different—in happy ways—from the women of the world.” Our calling is to live happy and faithful lives. We are the divinely-appointed guardians of hope. Being faithful means that we will be hopeful about the future despite uncertainty, not be resigned to what comes merely because we have no control over it.

Monday, March 16, 2020

33 Things to Do When You Have to Stay Where You Are

So a lot of people are kind of freaking out because of having to stay home for an unspecified amount of time. I have, like, a PhD in the art of not going anywhere. It’s going to be okay. Really, it is. Having it mandatory for you to stay home is giving you the opportunity to live life like me (which a bunch of you said you were jealous of). You’ve been given the gift of time. This is an opportunity to do all of the things that you always said you wanted to do, but said you couldn’t because you didn’t have time.

Here’s a list of some things that you can do without leaving your house:

1. Contact Loved Ones - Text, email, write letters, Marco Polo, Snapchat, WhatsApp, use your preferred method of technology to stay in contact with friends and family.

2. Journal - Find some way to document the gratitude you have for the things in your life. Try listing a list of the things you’re grateful for in a journal or an app like Presently. Be creative like the woman in this article who quilted her journal. Be sure to include the things that you previously might have taken for granted that you’re missing now that you’re required to participate in social distancing. Be grateful for the internet that gives you access to the ones you love despite the distance between you, access to information, and access to entertainment. Photograph the things that make you happy. Hey, bonus, you can even share these things online to help others who may be struggling to remember why they have reasons to be happy.

3. Learn New Skills - Time can be a gift if you use it. What’s something you find interesting that you just couldn’t find the time to learn about before? Sewing? Crochet? Writing? Psychology? Politics? Managing your finances? Planning for retirement? The internet is a vast place where lots of information and knowledge lives, and we can use it to educate ourselves without ever leaving the house.

4. Read - Mason Cooley said, "Reading gives us someplace to go when we have to stay where we are." Apps like Libby and Overdrive are free and let you check out books, audiobooks, and even movies without ever leaving the comfort of your couch. If you don’t have a current library card, call the library or your city to see if they can help you out. You can get a lot of the classics online for free on kindle. If money isn’t the issue, you can buy ebooks online or get an audible subscription. You can read all those books you didn’t have time to read before. You could participate in a reading challenge to read 50 books in 50 weeks. You could have an online book club. You could create your own reading challenge and ask your social media friends to participate.

5. Meditate - Learn how to be calm on purpose. This is a life skill that many of us lack because our lives are so busy and hectic that we never make time to be still. Learn how to be calm, and try to teach yourself how to maintain that calm even when you have stress around you. There are all sorts of studies of the benefits of meditation on health and well-being. Studies show that there are mental, emotional, and physical benefits to meditation. Here’s a Youtube Ted Talk about how meditation can literally change your brain and improve your ability to deal with stress.

6. Music - Learn to play an instrument. Practice an instrument you might already play. Learn to sing. Listen to your favorite music. Share your favorite music with your friends and family.

7. Exercise - I know it’s not ideal that you don’t get to go to the gym, or studio, or whatever your preferred method of working out is. However, there are a lot of options that you can do from home. Things like yoga, thai chi, or calisthenics only require your body to work out. Again, there are tons of free and paid options online to help you reach your fitness goals, whatever they may be. Here’s a link to an excellent free yoga channel on Youtube called Yoga with Adriene. Even spending time outdoors is still an option for some people, which would include walks and hikes.

8. Cook - If you’re stuck at home with your family, now might be an opportune time to explore cooking in different ways. Cook together. Eat meals together. If you have kids, teach them to cook with you instead of cooking for them. Explore recipes online or think about different types of cuisine you might like to eat. I’ve really enjoyed experimenting with Korean dishes and Vegan recipes lately. Maybe now is the time to try out a more plant-based diet.

9. Make Things - Craft. Make things. It doesn’t matter if you’re crappy at it. Everyone’s a beginner at first. Remember how to have fun like when you were a kid. Make Jewelry or wire sculptures. Make things from clay. There are a bunch of recipes online about how to make homemade slime or clay. Paint canvases or mandalas on rocks. Modge podge old cans or book covers.

10. Study History - Study history. Learn about mistakes that people have made in the past, and things that people did right. Understand the principles that your country was founded upon. Understand the rights and responsibilities we have to be responsible citizens and maintain freedoms. With the election coming up, this would be an excellent way to be more informed.

11. Study Religion - Study ancient philosophers like Plato and Aristotle. Study Buddishm. Study the Bible. Learn about morality. What does it mean to believe that some things are right and wrong, to believe in goodness and sin? Learn about concepts of God. Study the Book of Mormon. Study the Bhagavad Gita. Study these things to understand people who are different from you, and study them to find the merits in what others believe. Study to understand belief systems so that you can cultivate compassion, empathy, and tolerance for other people and ideas.

12. Write - Write stories. Write essays. Write a play and perform it with your family. Write a book and illustrate it. Write in your journal to understand yourself and gain insight about the ways you react and think. Study the art of writing. I can’t count the number of people who I’ve met who say they always wanted to write a book but could never find the time. Write the book that you wish you could read. Start a blog about something that you love. You’ve never had a more captive audience.

13. Draw - Practice drawing. Draw eyes. Draw hands. Draw still lifes. Draw portraits. Try to draw a portrait of one of your favorite people from a photograph. Study how to draw online. Draw abstract patterns. Doodle. Draw buildings. Draw the view from your window. Draw comics. Draw graphic novels. Mail a drawing you’ve made to someone you love or take a picture of your art and share it in a text or online.

14. Color - Adult coloring books are a popular way to unwind. Order a coloring book or print color pages from online. If you can’t do that, draw something to color.

15. Manicures and Pedicures - With all this emphasis on hygiene and washing our hands, why not make it fun. Soak your nails. Rub oil on your cuticles. Trim and file your nails. Buff them. Paint them. Paint your nails with ridiculously intricate artistic designs that you never would have done in real life because of the time requirement, and post your artwork online.

16. Clean - You know how certain parts of your house never seem to get clean? You’re too busy to finish all of the dishes, or there’s that weird pile of stuff that grows that you never seem to find time to sort through? Clean the kitchen and do all of the dishes. Wipe the counters. Clean the floors. I promise a cleaner house will make you feel better. Sort through your junk drawer. Organize your closets. Get rid of things you don’t need that are only cluttering up your home and life. Simplify.

17. Garden - All you need to garden is a window. It’s a bonus if you have outdoor space. I once grew a mini windowsill garden from seeds and had fresh tomatoes and peppers in the winter. Not only does gardening give you something to do every day as you cultivate your plant, you get to watch it grow, and if you care for it well you get something fresh and yummy to eat out of it. Learn about hydroponics or vertical gardening.

18. Sit by a Fire - If you have outdoor space, you could sit out by a fire. There’s something mesmerizing about campfires or firepits. If you don’t have outdoor space, you could light a candle. It might not be quite as exciting, but you can still toast a marshmallow on a fork and watch the flames.

19. Be Present - Learn the skill of being still. Pause and notice what’s around you. Notice the warmth of the sunshine streaming through the window on your arm. Listen to the sound of birds singing outside. Notice what you can see from your window. Feel the chair beneath you. Learn how to distinguish the present from the past and the future. Potential problems aren’t real yet. If you can change or influence the things you’re worried about, then plan and act. If you can’t control them, just let it go. Your emotional energy is precious and so is your peace. When you have done all you can do to influence things in the most positive way, relax. It is out of your hands and you’ve done your best. If you haven’t done your best, work harder.

20. Entertainment - Sometimes when your life is really stressful, there’s not much to do besides working on staying sane. If you’re overwhelmed and feeling panicky because you think you must be doing something, take a deep breath and waste some time. Learn how to relax. Take a bubble bath. Binge watch some shows. Play some video games. Try out some new apps.

21. Learn the Art of Massage - Life is stressful, and sometimes it's more stressful than usual. It's important to learn how to maintain our bodies and manage our pain, regardless of what life throws at us. Practice on someone in your household. If you live alone, it's even more important to know how to ease the tension in your body. Learn how to use household objects for massage. Use tennis balls. Learn how to ease tension headaches. Try out different methods of massage like scraping and trigger point therapy.

22. Paint A Room - Haul out the paints or pick some up on your grocery run and update the color of your walls. It takes a long time and you’ll have accomplished something when you’re done.

23. Grow Things - Cultivate flowers, plants, or succulents. Grab a succulent or an orchid at walmart during your grocery run and learn how to care for it.

24. Collect Inspiration - Go on Pinterest and collect inspiring quotes that make you happy or hopeful. Write them in a book or pin them. Collect beautiful images. Share the things that inspire you and make you happy with other people online.

25. Daydream - Daydream about the things that you would do if you weren’t quarantined, and plan to do them someday. Pin pictures of the destinations you want to see and the places you want to visit. Daydream about the way you wish your life was. Daydream about how you wish the world was.

26. Plan - Plan for the future. Plan the party you’ll have when social distancing is over. Plan for your life. If you weren’t on mandatory house arrest, what would you be doing? Are you pursuing your hopes and dreams? If not, why not? Transforms your daydreams into goals by devising steps that will move you in the direction of your goals. Think about what you’re passionate about. How do you wish the world was different or better? Follow Gandhi's advice and be the change you wish to see in the world. Implement changes in your own life that reflect the changes that you wish everyone would adopt. For example, if you’re passionate about health and fitness and fighting rising rates of obesity, exercise and maybe share your journey and passion with others online. If you’re passionate about plant-based eating, share or make up recipes that you love. If you’re worried about the national debt and government spending, be responsible with your own finances and try to teach others how to be responsible too. Although you might be restricted in what you can do now, what do you want to do when you have the freedom to do things again? Be solution oriented instead of problem oriented.

27. Become More Cultured - Tour museums virtually that you might otherwise never get to visit like The Louvre or The National Gallery of Art. Attend an opera every day for the duration of the Met’s closure.

28. Keep Learning (for Kids) - Companies like Scholastic are encouraging kids to keep learning while schools are canceled by offering free daily K-6+ projects to “keep kids reading, thinking, and growing.” There’s also a list of education companies offering free subscriptions due to school closures here.

29. Study a Language - If you’re going to be hanging out on your phone to pass the time, why not use it learning a useful skill? Apps like Duolingo offer free courses in tons of languages. If you progress enough so that you’re not challenged anymore by the app, the website has stories in a few languages that get progressively harder. While you read you answer questions to challenge your comprehension. You can start reading books or articles in the language you’re learning. A free and easy way to do this using articles or books on the website for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. You can choose the language you want to view the website in. Another bonus is that much of the content has audio, so if you do a split screen view, you can play the audio and brush up on your listening skills while you improve your comprehension.

30. Origami - Origami is, like, a life skill. Every boring thing you ever attend will have a program, and if you have paper, you have entertainment. Also, if kids are bored, you can make them an instant toy. You can have fun doing origami with more than just paper. You can do it with dollar bills or napkins too.

31. Do Makeup - Always thought it was crazy how people could completely transform themselves using makeup? Always wished you could try it but never had the time? Now, you’ve eliminated the humiliation of having to leave the house if your makeup turns out horribly. If it turns out well, you can always share it online. Try facepainting. Try stage makeup. Use some household products like breadcrumbs and corn syrup with red food coloring to turn yourself into a zombie, or make it look like you have disgusting wounds. After all of your makeup attempts you should have a model shoot.

32. Hairtainment - Entertain yourself by trying new hairstyles. No matter your length of hair, there are tutorials online teaching you things that you can do with it. You can try updos or braids. You can try curling it with socks. You can try cutting, dyeing, or highlighting your own hair. You can pin your hair up and make it look like you have bangs.

33. Beautify Your Living Space - Hang decorations or paintings. Make centerpieces. Be creative. Work outside in your yard. Landscape. Surround yourself with things in your home that make you happy.


There are so many things you can do that are entertaining and productive, even when you’re stuck at home. If you’re really anxious about being quarantined, it’s time for a little introspection. You need to ask yourself why. Why are you feeling anxiety about having to stay home?

It can’t be FOMO. The whole world is in the same boat right now.

Are you afraid of slowing down? Are you afraid of being alone with your own thoughts? If you are, you probably need to slow down even more. There’s a zen proverb that says “If you don’t have time to meditate for an hour, then you should meditate for two hours.” Are you running away from something? Are you staying busy so that you don’t have to think about something, and if so what?

Are you worried about finances? There’s a reason that experts recommend having an emergency fund, and it’s precisely for times like these. You could utilize this time to learn the basics about managing your finances, career paths that are in demand, and responsible things to do with your money once you’ve saved an excess beyond an emergency fund. You could study how to invest in different ways so that the money you do have is productive for you.

Does being home make you sad? If being home makes you sad, you should find ways to improve it so that it makes you happy. Cleaning your environment can help. Decluttering your environment can help. Surrounding yourself with decorations and things that are beautiful can help. C.S. Lewis said that “The homemaker has the ultimate career. All other careers exist for one purpose only - and that is to support the ultimate career.” Have we made where we live a home? Do we work to support our families, the lifestyle we want, and to contribute to our communities? Or is work our life? Is socializing our life? Is that what we really want? If you feel alone, maybe assess your priorities and see if the places you’re spending most of your time are getting you closer to your goals based on your priorities and values.

This can be a gift if we use it. This is the opportunity of time. Do all of the things you said you wished you would do if you only had the time. Be still. Breathe. Do the things you said you wanted to do someday. Make today your someday.